SEX MATTERS

For a long time it has been taught in Christian circles that Sex means the world to men, and not so much for women. As a disciple and dedicated student of the Church (at the time) I believed this hook, line, and sinker. What I have come to find out is that this is not exactly true.

To be certain, sex is at the top of the list for 99.99999999% of men. I can't think of one thing a man would prefer to do given a chance to make love to a woman. On the flip side, this is not often the case for women. But, sex is not far off from things a woman would like to do.

Sex is profoundly connecting for women. It is a relationship/intimacy enhancer. There is an exchange and an unleashing of emotion that connects a woman to her lover in such a way that is is near impossible to break. There appears to be two particular occasions in which this spectacular happening takes place. The first is the "first." The second is the best.

A woman's first lover has such a deep impact upon women that science has shown that women will be led to get involved with men that remind them of their first lover. This includes personality, physicality, etc... The first will never be forgotten, always be an issue, and likely be primary in the mind of a woman. The first is not only the first sexually, but the first love. They hold a special place because this will be the only time a woman has loved a man without having a history of a broken heart. This man may very well destroy a woman for all overs.

The second is the man that finds that "Spot." Sex does matter to women. What seems to matters most in sex is the quality of the experience. If a man is able to connect with a woman on a physical level that unleashed that explosion of pleasure and ecstasy he can almost be guaranteed entry anytime he wants. The quality of the lovemaking experience has a lot to do with skill. It may have even more to do with how the woman views the man.

If the woman has a high amount of respect for the man, if he has captured her heart, if he has "swag," he may have become the best before he has ever touched the woman in that way. It has been said that the greatest sex organ is between a person's ears. I think this is true. If a man can capture the heart and mind of a woman, any bit of physical skill will lock (or open) her up forever. Both the first and the best seem to cause significant ongoing problems for both women and men.

One thing I have come to find is that the first and the best don't seem to last. The first tends to take place so early in life that it is near impossible to proceed long term toward marriage. That's a shot because it guarantees heartbreak and will only add to the struggles of the man that want to love that woman. As for the best, he's typically a gamer and his skill at charming women and making them feel special is too great to be contained to any one woman. He's spreading the love and is rarely tied down...marriage be damned.

These two situations can jack a woman up for life if she doesn't address these issues. It can in turn, jack a man up for life as he is trying to overcome the first experience, the best experience, and pick up the broken pieces of the woman's heart. That's a tall order for any man. Not to mention all the other sexual experiences and heartbreaks and aches that have been compounded along the way. Sex matters to women. Unfortunately, it tends to matter in such a way that it doesn't do them or anyone else much good.