Dominance

As I continue to examine relationships I've come to notice a common theme in the most successful ones. Is it understanding? Nope! Is it mutual respect? Nope! Is it equal share in all things? Nope! Is it tossing out of traditional rolls? Nope! Is it the financial prowess? Nope! Is it physical? Nope! Is it sacrificial love? Nope! So, what is it?

And the answer is....DOMINANCE! I can't tell you how many successful, long lasting, and satisfactory relationships I've seen that have the presence of a dominant male. As a young man I used to think that a dominant, heavy handed, male would be the destruction of a relationship. As I'm a little older and a little wiser I have come to see that I am wrong.

Sure, the women in these relationships complain about the dominance of the man. However, at the same time there is a respect and a love that draws them. This dominance I speak of is not one born of abuse. No, it's one of masculinity compounded with a loving and caring protection. In some ways it's like eating vegetables. They're good for you and you know it, even though it's not your favorite thing.

Some may ask, "What if the woman is dominant?" Let me say this clearly; "IT CAN'T WORK!!!!" Men that have a dominant female companion are unhappy. Not only are they unhappy, so is the dominant woman. No woman wants a push over. Even if she thinks she wants a push over she really doesn't. This is usually played out by the woman dumping the man. A dominant woman is a recipe for disaster.

You may argue against my point, but just look around you and see what's working. You can't deny the evidence. There is a need for leadership in any institution, including dating. When a man brings that leadership quality to the table and remains consistent in his care he has set himself on a path for relational success. From an anecdotal perspective, I've noticed that dominant men have sex more often than non-dominant men. They are more greatly supported in their decisions and goals. And, the woman appears to be secure in her relationship. You can't beat that.

Dominance is just that, dominance. Superior leadership, superior relationships. A strong man leads to a feeling of security. Kick and fight this truth as much as you want, it won't change the facts of life. If you're a woman that thinks you love a "liberal" man of the new millennium, ask yourself if you're happy? If you're a man that has seen failing relationship after failing relationship or no relationship at all, look at your leadership. Look at your dominance (or lack there of). It can make all the difference.