The Challenge

One of the funniest and most obvious ways people ease their way into a sexual relationship is "The Challenge." It is used by young (teenagers) and old (any age above 30) alike. It is a rather elementary move that can easily be played off as a joke if things go south or pushed forward if things are looking up. What is "The Challenge" you ask? Well, let me tell you.

The Challenge is when one party or another boast about there ability to put it down in the bedroom. This is where men proclaim themselves as cocksmiths. Ya know, "I'll put you in a wheel chair" type stuff. This is where men talk about the two feet of cable they keep on hand for making sure that "connection" is just right. This is, "I get more butt than an ashtray" "I seen more ass than a toilet seat."

On the woman's side. This is where you have claims of turning innocent men into stalkers. This is the "I'll bring you your knees begging for mercy." This is where women brag about all the freaky stuff they've done, do, or want to do. Truth be told, it won't take all that for men. A simple go will suffice for most.

The crazy thing about this is how effective the technique is. It seems to pique the interest of many, both men and women. Folks wander could this one be the real deal. More often than not they find that the expectations were set to high and the product was significantly overpriced.

This really isn't a problem for men because either way it goes, good or bad, they got some ass. That was priority number one. A woman could say a nigga was weak, had a small dick, was a minute man.....whatever. In the end he still got you and that can't ever be taken away. If the tables are turned and the woman ended up sucking (and I don't mean this in a good way) he still got one off with someone else. Again, mission accomplished.

Women tend to be more disappointed. I have talked to quite a few women that engaged a man physically for the soul purpose of curiosity concerning the man's ability to lay the pipe. Sadly, all too often I've heard reports of extreme disappointment. This never seems to work out for the woman. She could spread the tale of this man's woeful performance and it won't damage the man a bit. It might even improve his ability to attract more victims.

I remember being in college. There was a guy that had a rep for being the campus stud. Word was nobody had smashed on more women than he did. At the same time he had the rep of being a minute man with no finesse. This didn't seem to damper his ability to bed women at all. It was funny. It was like women had to see for themselves. The same is true of a man with a rep for delivery. Either way, it seems to work out for the man.

The challenge is a smooth or not so smooth (obvious) way of breaking the ice of cutting to the chase. People use this instead of saying flat out, "Do you want to fuck?" That would be crude and turn people off. Hence, we play the game of "normal" joking conversation all the while hoping it's the opening to a meeting in the bedroom. As Usher said in the Trey Songz hit, Invented Sex, "I'm just playing unless you gonna do it."