Consequences

Part of being a good guy is taking into account what impact your decisions will have on another person. A good guy wants to do the most good while causing the least amount of harm. Consequently, they end up trying to look 3, 4, and more moves down the road on Life's Chess Game. This can be difficult on the nice guys progression.

The nice guy will consider what fulfilling his sexual desires means for his partner (s). This includes the emotional impact, the impact on a person's future relationships, etc... The nice guy wants what he wants without consequence. But, there is no decision that can be made without consequence. It is the law of living.

So, this puts the nice guy in a tough spot. He can either forfeit his desires, wants, and needs for the better good of others and be thoroughly frustrated. Or, he can go for his and let the chips fall where they may. It's a tough decision. The nice guy has to decide what he can live with- frustration, guilt, or a callus heart.

The truth is, people are responsible for the decisions that they make. Although a good guy may not want to cause pain to others, he has to come to a place where he recognizes that the people he is dealing with are adults and have decisions of their own to make. This is the reality of life. Each of us is responsible for what we do and don't do.

As a man I need to put all the cards on the table and make my plans clear. In turn, the other party needs to take responsibility for their response. Whatever the decision there will be consequences. Some consequences are good and some not so much. Nevertheless, a decision must be made. And with those decisions there will be consequences.