PRESSURE

I work with kids that have extreme value and boundary problems. These are kids that believe that Axe really works (that women will fight for them if they wear it). I mean this one. I have been asked on more than one occasion if the commercials are true. These kids believe that what happens in porno's can really happen in real life (the no dialogue, no relationship orgies that break out at the bus stop). These are kids that believe that they are "owed" sex after spending so much money on a woman or taking her out so many times. I'd like to laugh this one off, but I can't.

It appears that this thinking error that a woman's treasure can be purchased and is a silent contract is thought to be true by men and women alike. I've had more than a few confirm this. I personally think it's ridiculous. If you agree to go on a date you only have the obligation to show up. And, even then if things look shady you can deny based on your own free will. There is no dollar amount or date count that entitles a man to the goodies.

If there is a number that works like the combination to the love cabin who sets that standard? Is it the individual woman, the man, some cosmic force that makes the rules for dating? One man might think the trip to the dollar show and McDonald's plus gas money has reached the ceiling for getting his. On the other hand, maybe a trip to Ruth's Chris' is all it takes. Perhaps, it's about the Gucci, Prada, and Coach....who's to say?

Look, all I'm saying is that if you don't want to sleep with a person you shouldn't feel pressure because they have shown some form of chivalry. At the same time you shouldn't use men for free meals, gifts, rent, or gas money. That type of thing is equally appalling. Be honest with yourself, be honest with others, and cut it off before you feel pressure if you can see things are going where you want them to go. The Pressure is off.