Undefined

Lately, I have come in contact with a lot of women that are in relationships that are undefined. These women have all complained about the lack of definition their relationships have had. These women want to be recognized as the official woman of their man (if you can even lay claim to that). They want a logo on the relationship that this woman can not be touched without the express written consent of the nigga she calls her boo.

A label on a relationship gives it boundaries. It gives it rights and responsibilities. In a way, it's a verbal contract that is binding. Violations of said contract are a practical means for ending the agreement. You can see why women would like to have their relationship defined. It is a form of security.

On the other hand, you can see that the undefined relationship offers many benefits to the man. On one hand he can say with a clear conscience at any time to any woman that he is not in a serious relationship. He can mess around with any woman he wants to and doesn't have to explain a thing to the woman that wants more. He's essentially free. He's got the cow, the milk, and the rest of the herd if he so desires. It's a buffet of freak nasty pantie droppers.

If he were to submit to the demands of the woman for a labled relationship he would be tying himself down. This would be a mistake. If he puts boundaries on the relationship by stating that he's committed, in an exclusive relationship, or whatever you want to call it, he will have to negotiate the terms of this agreement. This could prove deadly to his sex game.

Not only would a labeled relationship cause him to be accountable to the woman, it would now shut off all other reasonable avenues of feeding that monster known as his sex drive. It could even slow down the action he has going on with the woman he's with. For some reason women seem more than willing to go the extra mile when they are trying to catch a man. Once they think they have him they suddenly go cold. This drives a man crazy. Not only will he feel forced into a committed relationship he will be pissed that he ain't gettin' none.

I personally think that women are dick whipped when it comes to this type of thing. Most of the time they are already sexually involved. So not only is their heart involved but so are their spirits and bodies. I tend to believe that if sex wasn't involved they would kick a guy to the curb if he wasn't on the same track they were. It's just my opinion on the subject but I think it's true.

So, in the end I think that people should clearly set the boundaries before they engage on that physical level. If you go physical before the table is set you will have already set the boundaries...that would be none. For the man, setting the boundaries might hurt his business. Most women don't like hearing that a man just wants to hit. But, he can at least have a clear conscience. Of course, you could just keep on with the game of undefined.